The Connection Habit Challenge – Day 1
The focus area for today is me, and what I bring to the relationship as an individual.
In Matthew 7 we read:
It’s easy to see a smudge on your neighbour’s face and be oblivious to the ugly sneer on your own. Do you have the nerve to say, ‘Let me wash your face for you,’ when your own face is distorted by contempt?
It’s easy to be critical about my partner and be completely blind to my own shortcomings. This area of “Who Am I” reminds me to focus exclusively on something about myself that I could change or improve in order to enjoy a healthier relationship.
I Don’t Know?
If you don’t know what you should focus on or change, ask your partner. I’m sure they’ll be glad to show you an area of improvement and they’re definitely not blind to your flaws. Remember this is not the time to get defensive. Take the feedback and focus on yourself.
Write down what you are going to focus on about yourself for today in order to build a stronger relationship.
A Way To Remember
Find a way to remind yourself about this focus for the day. Write your focus for the day on a piece of paper and put it into your pocket. Every time you reach in there and feel it you are reminded to think about it. Another idea is to set a few reminding alarms on your phone for the day. At least 5 will do, but you can even set it to remind you every hour or two.
Don’t skip this part. This is where the magic happens.
Don’t wait for you partner to change, but like Ghandi famously said: “Be the change you want to see in the world”, or in this case your relationship.