The Connection Habit Challenge – Day 2
Day 2 – Two World Collide
The concept of two worlds colliding reminds me that the two of us in the relationship are different and our differences can often cause a major collision if we fail to find a way to align our differences.
In life, we often relate best with people who are like us. We feel comfortable in situations where we can relate to the people because of our similarities and we tend to feel discomfort when people differ from us.
We are a team
In marriage, we come together as a team. Although we connect on certain similarities, we are by nature very different. Truth be told if the two of us were the same, then one of us wouldn’t be needed in this relationship. Our differences are what makes us strong, but our differences can also be our main point of conflict.
The challenge lies in learning how to see the value in my partner’s otherness.
See the gold
The intention for today’s focus area is not only to realise that we are different, but also to learn how to value and appreciate the way in which our partner differs from us.
This is no easy task, but write down one thing about your partner’s otherness that usually tends to frustrate you, and find the gold in it. Keep searching until you find the value in their way of thinking, feeling, or behaving and then find a way to genuinely appreciate and complement them for it.
Remember to put that piece of paper in your pocket as your reminder for the day. Don’t skip this part. This is where the magic happens.
The secret lies not in changing your partner, but rather in changing the way you perceive them.